I experienced a teaching moment, years ago, when a friend of mine returned from a psychic reading and was quite angry and upset, because the psychic had predicted the death of her grandmother.
I was a teenager at the time, so I tended to be harsh and judgmental of others anyway – so you can imagine the scorn I heaped upon this psychic. That memory of my friend’s upset continues to affect my own practice today, as I am very, VERY careful when discussing the future passing of my client’s loved ones. I know a few of my readers can attest to the speech I give when talking about future events, and how hesitant I am to touch upon the future death of others.
Well, here is a perspective we may not have considered: how might it feel for that person to discover their own death has been predicted by a psychic?
I’ve cross posted Helena’s Healing Circle a few times, and this one is a doozy:
I hope that these people had good intentions when they emailed Helena’s partner with predictions of her death, but certainly no one thought of the possibility of Helena discovering the predicted dates of her death.
How much would that suck? What a black mark to put on someone’s calendar. No one likes to be the topic of gossip, and in a way this is the ultimate suckiness of being talked about. What a way to override / discount the power of one’s free will – Helena had stated in many-a-blog-post that given the choice, she would choose to continue to live. That was her will.
Predicting her death is like saying her will didn’t matter.
I am grateful to Helena for sharing this, because this too is a story I will hold in my heart for the rest of my life, allowing it to guide my own practice with wisdom and compassion.
For all you psychics in training out there, now is a good time to think about how you will handle the question of discussing the future.
Some psychics take the approach that if they see it, it is given to them by God and they are meant to pass it on. This is how some psychics feel it is possible for them to work – by handing over all ethical concerns to the spirits. I will not call it wrong, it is just not how I feel comfortable working.
When anyone asks me about the future, I have a little speech: I explain how the future is always in motion, and divine timing is constantly evolving based upon the choices that people make.
If you want to get really crazy with it, you could consider that each and every possibility does play itself out, but that sort of thinking is not often helpful when clients are looking for information. They want to know what will they experience in their timeline.
I have energetic boundaries set around my practice which helps prevent me from reading someone without their permission – I just see grey, or sometimes I see a “do not enter” traffic sign. It’s easy to slip over that line when you’re in “medium mode” and not always thinking about whether you “should” offer a response to the question. Sometimes you are passively channeling information, as directed by the questions of the client.
And yet it does come up, discussing possible futures. I am a medium, and so I work best when we are engaging an individual on the other side in conversation – so we might be talking to someone’s grandmother or spirit guide, and the client will ask about their future. I will say something like, “remember that (your grandmother) will be expressing her take on things, her opinion, and that you decide whether it rings true to you.”
I will explain how, through a month of meditation, another client of mine opened up her future to dozens of possibilities that just weren’t visible to me before – this amazed me and humbled me to begin to understand the power of our own sheer will.
I think about this and I wonder how my great-grandmother Alwina ever handled the ethical question of prediction. I wonder whether the potential futures were as complex in the 30s and 40s, when the world was gripped by the momentum of war, as they are now, when there is so much liberation and freedom of choice for so many. Alwina was the grand-master of future predictions.
Even if I knew how to do that, I’m not sure I would.
The choices you make in your own practice, is up to you.