Hey Kurt, if you were to pick some adjectives to describe yourself, what would they be? (If you have any?)
The answer came through before I could type the above question:
Yeah, I’m blonde. Still am. (grin).
Can I explain what you just gave me or will that wreck the joke? (nods, go ahead)
So, what he gave me with the “I’m blonde, still am” reply is also the understanding that being blonde is about as relevant to who he was / is as it ever was / is. It’s an adjective, a descriptor; it isn’t *him*.
How would you describe me (what are your adjectives of choice?)
Blonde. That’s a good one. Sincere, unless you’re (joking/bullshitting/being sarchastic). Earnest and intense, unless you’re being silly.
Silly? Like a kitten???
Yeah, totally like a kitten!
And cute too?
(how do I describe the nuance here, sorry dude I’m gonna butcher it but I have to try: self-deprecating / egotistical / joking / a little insecure and sort of serious / but really joking because who gives a fuck)
(this is a reference to a running joke between Sweetie & I the last couple of days, in reference to Margaret Cho’s performance in “beautiful” where she advises her prospective lovers to “WASH IT! Seriously, wash it.” And it’s a throw-back to early entries when John used to tease our dislike for facial hair, yet unwashed grunge was somehow okay.)
Hey Kate, how would you describe yourself? (see how that feels? Grin)
Hmm. Honest, for sure. – as I try and think of other words, he says:
See, a lot of people look to how they *want* to be when they’re choosing adjectives for themselves. 13 year old me? I’d have said, (depending on the day) a fuck up / a rock star. Both would have been true.
Hmm. It’s a challenge to think about it that way too, because in one question you’re taking responsibility for owning your future potential, too. So, I’d say “A writer” “Happy” “Healthy” “Comfortable” “Brave”.
So at what point does this exercise become nauseatingly egotistical?
When you’re telling it to (a member of the media.)
OMG! I can’t believe I did that to you!
(laughing like he’s played a joke on me)
Funny. That’s another one I’d pick for you.
I’ll take it!