Night before last, I set up the coffee without putting any grounds in the basket. I had nice hot water in the morning.
Last night, I dumped the grinds in *without* putting the basket in first – all the grounds fell on top of the carafe below. Made a bit of a mess.
I was sensing a coffee-themed trio of ridiculousness. This morning, I put on a loose pair of scrub pants… backwards. That’s not the funny part. I didn’t NOTICE until I’d walked around in them that way for a while.
The really sad part is this is not the first time I’ve left the change room with my pants on backwards! I think I did the same thing last month! I may not have blogged about it… which brings me to my little conundrum of the day, and I’d love to bounce this off you awesome folks, and see what you think:
Every once in a while, I re-evaluate how I’m managing the blog, my business, and now the podcast – I want to make sure I’m accomplishing what I want to accomplish, and I take notes on how my approach differs from others with similar goals.
One thing that really separates my personal blog from most psychic’s / intuitive professional websites is that I share the good and the bad – I don’t over-share my personal life, but I try to strike a balance between professional positivity and sharing what I, as a human being, am experiencing and learning.
I choose this approach because I’ve always wondered what those other psychics were leaving out, particularly the ones who were uber-positive. For this reason, I’ve really enjoyed reading autobiographies, because more of the *real* person is shared. It’s as though the point I’m making, over and over, is that if you’re feeling conflicted or challenged in life, it’s not because you’re any different from those people. You’re not somehow failing, or unworthy. You’re human. Look, I am too.
I guess I’ve always felt like our struggles and mistakes have as much to teach us as our triumphs and successes. If all we offer to the world is our success, we’re leaving out half of the story!
In case anyone was wondering what happened with the BIP, (Book in Progress, see the tab above) it was back-burnered the day of my mother’s diagnosis. Something about that just slammed shut the tap on that story, it’s really weird. The other weird thing is I’d written a rough “biography” manuscript, which I’d been planning on doing *something* with, and that project’s also been frozen rock-solid in my mind. It’s so weird. Instead, all of that creative energy went into the podcast, but there’s a new book idea as well… which is ridiculous, really. I already have two on the go, why on earth would I start another?
I was listening to a podcast about self-publishing, and one of the guests was talking about how she managed the successful launch of her book – when the host called it her “first book”, the guest corrected her and said it was in fact her FOURTH book, that her first three didn’t sell.
Well, how darn valuable is that for us to know? Without that disclosure, it creates the illusion that some people just have the *golden touch*. I was very grateful that she shared her learning process.
For me, this blog is about my learning process. That gives me a lot of different reasons to write, and it connects me to you lovely readers in a more personal way. I enjoy that personal connection, I am grateful for it, and I work very hard to create things I hope will be helpful and useful to you in your own lives, which is really the big motivation behind the podcast.
HOWEVER! I am aware that sharing this side of my story can affect how people see me, professionally. The cookie-cutter woman-in-business format is to have a clean website with pastel colours, whimsical lettering and a lot of positive affirmations, which is great! (See, positive affirmation!)
I guess I’ve realized that if I’m going to put myself out there, I’m going to put my *whole* self out there. That’s just how I roll.
The drawback, I’ve noticed, is that some people perceive this as a weakness, which shifts their perception of me as a professional. I really believe it takes more strength to share the whole story, rather than just the good, flattering parts.
So this has created a challenge for me: How do I inspire respect?
Ha. Someone just said into my ear, “Self-respect.” As in, you’ve got to respect yourself to inspire it in others.
There’s a forehead-smacking moment. Thank you for that.
I do not pretend to know all the answers, but I promise I’ll do my best to help. I cannot promise I’ll be able to measure up to another’s expectations, but I will do what I can while respecting my own boundaries and limitations.
And it seems to be working: most of my psychic business comes from this blog, and NOT my professional website. That’s why I’ve been so high on gratitude for you guys – I put myself out there, and you respond with kindness, empathy and enthusiasm.
To hell with cookie-cutter professionalism… but if “my way” results in a lot of backward-pants and wasted coffee grounds, I’d be wise to listen to your good advice.
What do you guys think? I got rid of the “brain farts” thing upon your general concurrence. I’ve gotten some great feedback from regular readers that I *do* plan to implement in the hopefully-near future, including:
Bringing back Celebrity Fridays (or at least doing it once a month) I am doing a “Ghosts in History” segment on the podcast, and I’d love to hear your questions for famous people of Christmas past.
*Teaser* I got a message from Sylvia Browne that I’ll be including in the next podcast. It’s *hilarious*. I nearly fell off my chair when I got it.
Having a regular animal communication section, particularly, advice from my cat, Sunshine. I love this idea, and Sunshine is very opinionated. She will happily participate.
Having an “intuitive development tip of the week”
I am gathering all of these inspirations and organizing a plan of action for the next six months, and I’d love to hear your other suggestions – don’t hold back! Even if I can’t do it this year, it’ll go into the “ideas” folder for future inspiration.
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