I was in the car this morning, pretty tired actually, and the dreary weather was not helping me, when after a block or two of driving, this thought drops into my head. This concept like a shoebox that’s full of little notes. It’s time to write another blog post, I realized. Who gave this to me?
George. Of course, George. Dearest George, it’s been a long time.
Not so long for me, my dear.
We were talking in the car about “life reviews” – let me take a moment to elaborate for the readers.
A “life review” is the concept of taking space after your life is over to review the decisions you made during your lifetime, and how your decisions and actions affected your own life and other people. More than that, it’s the process of integrating that knowledge, the full knowledge, the understanding of the full impact *regardless of your intentions at the time*, into your everlasting spirit consciousness, your soul, your “higher self”.
It’s this life review that helps us to make the transition from the very limiting restrictions of our just-past mortal lifetime, and incorporating our recent lifetime’s worth of experiences into the context of *all* of our lifetimes. Past lives. Lives in other times. Lives in other *timelines*. Lives, perhaps, as other species. Even lives on other planets. There’s a lot to integrate, and depending on how one has lived, potentially a lot to answer for, amends owing. Sometimes there’s a huge wash of gratitude, too. Sometimes it’s about realizing just how many people you have helped, how big an impact all those little acts had upon other people and other life forms.
So now you can see why incorporating everything you said and did from THIS life is going to require some processing.
Oh, remember my friend, (shows me lives layered over the same timeline).
George is showing me, reminding me, of the idea that some of our lives are not simply linear. Sometimes, we are living not just one line of possibilities. Sometimes, when we die, or even before we die, we want to go back and re-live a portion of our lives over again, and make slightly different, or maybe profoundly different decisions, just so that we can incorporate ALL of the learning potential we have in this body.
I think this accounts for some of our feelings of deja-vu. In those moments, we’re catching a glimpse of the overlapping timeline. Neat, eh?
(This sounds oddly hilarious in a British accent. Now he’s saying it in a high-pitched falsetto, just to make me smile.) We can all use reminders to take ourselves, even our journal entries, a little less seriously! We’re all going to the same place. (Shows me a man and a little girl walking barefoot down a dirt road in the summer. The road is flanked by fields and a fence, the sun is setting, everything is bathed in a gold light.)
George, you said something mind-blowing to me this morning, what was it again??
Blew right through your mind, evidently!
Haw haw. Okay, I remember. You were showing me that when someone dies, it’s not just that person doing a life review. The people who are still living are processing a reconciliation too.
Yes, and it’s exhausting! This may be why grieving is terribly difficult work. In other cultures, as one ages, even as one is dying, this gives that person and their friends around them some time to begin the process of life reconciliation. There are some people who work half their lives to prepare for their deaths – that seems excessive to me. I needed only some few years. Anyone with a meditative practice is prepared enough for death. Those who are left behind, they’re doing some very heavy lifting, spiritually.
Life reconciliation is work on the energetic plane. You’re human and your soul is still *stuck* in its’ body, but there are things which can be done to loosen that glue. Meditation is one, just proper sleep is another. Sleep attained through peaceful rest, sleep that is undisturbed by a restless partner or ended prematurely by an alarm clock. Sleep is important spiritual work.
That (saying) “I’ll sleep when I’m dead.” No you won’t! (laughs!) You will NOT sleep when you’re dead, my friends! Sleep is a luxury of the living! It’s a spiritual necessity!
While you grieve, sleep becomes even more important. The work which can be done while you leave your body at rest, gives you the freedom to work outside the body for a few hours. Many times this is when people will have vivid dreams of their loved ones – these are actually visitations. Visitations are so much easier while you’re *both* in spirit. The only sad thing is sometimes people wake up and believe it was *just* a dream.
It’s never “just a dream” my friends. The love is real. Believe it when you feel it. Tell yourself whatever you need to say so that you can hold on to that feeling of love.
Everyone experiences a Life Reconciliation differently, but unlike a life review, which we do only at the conclusion of our own lifetime, we experience life reconciliations many times over! We do it for our own sake, as well as for our friend who has died.
This is why it affects you so deeply to hear someone you haven’t seen in years has passed. You might grieve that person, even though you hadn’t seen him or her in years. You’re reconciling all of the decisions you made together – it goes deeper than the human surface. This is well from which guilt inexplicably weeps. Questioning decisions. The finality.
A true life reconciliation is a finality – in that moment, you’re working on closing the circle of possibilities – all of the decisions have been made. For now, it’s all stories of what *did* happen. You’re saying goodbye to what might be, because YOU need to retain enough life force in your OWN timeline to continue to move forward.
If we didn’t do life reconciliations, we would find ourselves utterly swept up in reliving all the possible timelines and choices we could have made with one individual. (Shows me a bulb with roots growing downwards in a natural growth pattern, then shows me a pot-bound plant where the roots have overgrown into a giant tangled web.) What use is that? The purpose of *all of this* is growth outward. Obsessive behaviour (he calls re-doing all possible timelines obsessive) does not move us forward, it tires and warps us. Life reconciliation is essential for us to continue our proper growth. (Shows me a beautiful, healthy, flowering tree in his garden, branches spreading and curving upward, roots spreading and expanding downwards.)
When someone we are close with dies, or when *we* die and we leave behind so many souls whom we love and miss, life reconciliation is something we all do together. It’s a spiritual therapy. We all need it. Our reconciliation of our time spent with this person in spirit, HELPS THEM in spirit! It’s such important work!
I feel like I just woke up after this conversation. Thank you so much, George. Is there anything else you’d like to say today?
Live long and prosper! (spock hand)
Seriously! This is not what I expected!
(Laughs.) Live as long as you can, as long as you are comfortable. Dying with peace is easier when you know you have said all of your “I Love You’s”, all of your “I’m Sorry’s”. And Sleep Well!
Love you, George.
Love to you. (Sound)