Spirit Birthdays and Butter Tarts

Thanks Giving Dinner

Yesterday, while searching through my email for correspondence with another client, an email from 2013 popped up in front of me.  I did a bit of a double-take, because I recognized the name, though it had been five years since our session.

I wouldn’t normally reach out to a past client like this when we haven’t had contact for years, but I kept thinking about reaching out, getting these little nudges – which are usually invitations to experience something neat, on a spiritual level.

So I sent her a quick hello, in as respectful a way as possible, and suggested that perhaps, this was her dog’s way of saying hi after a few years.  Sometimes they like to take advantages of little connections like this.

Turns out, the pup’s birthday is next week.  While this beautiful dog had left her body, she still wanted to reach out to her human mom, and remind her.

It was very sweet, and pretty cool!  One of those tiny little miracles I enjoy so much as a part of this work.  You can’t *make* them happen, but sometimes if you listen to the little nudges, and reach out carefully and respectfully, neat things like this can happen.

Today, is also my mother’s birthday!  I have a little reminder set up in my calendar, because I don’t want to ever let a December 12th slip by without remembering it’s my mother’s birthday.  I like to just say aloud, Happy Birthday, before I do anything else with my day.

I would say my mom is having a good time in spirit.  I often feel her around when Sweetie and I are travelling or having a good time – I hear her laugh, layered with the laughing of others.  I feel her in the company of my grandmother, her mother, and my great-aunt.  I think they like to travel together, or tag along with us and I’m sure the other family members when we’re enjoying ourselves.

It’s neat, how happy I always perceive her to be, and she wants us to know she’s just fine.

It’s so interesting that birthdays seem to be a good time to connect with our loved ones in spirit.  I think it’s because we are thinking of them, and often the memories are lighter and happier on birthdays, than on other anniversary dates.  A lifetime of celebration creates a lightness around their birthdays – a dynamic energy that’s often full of love and cheerful memories.

I also think it’s easier for *them* to connect with *us*, when we create space for lightness and happy memories.  It takes a little discipline sometimes, and I will admit, my friends, I can get into a habit of being a tad morose on grief-related dates.  But I have some positive advice:

A friend of mine visits her grandfather’s grave on his birthday and eats a butter tart, which he loved.  I thought that was a great idea, so I’ve *also* had butter tarts on the anniversary of my mother’s death, as a way of doing something positive and creating happy habits on these important days.

I also happen to really enjoy butter tarts myself.  I spent a winter once, working on a recipe until I perfected it.  Perhaps I’ll post that later on!

I found I really needed to *do* something, because it does not do me, nor my mother, any good at all to allow myself to get depressed every year around dates of sad events, or dates which REMIND me of sad events.  It’s a lot to carry, and I’ve been working on letting it go.

As I mentioned before, sometimes we *need* to carry our grief with us for a time.  We don’t want to let it go too soon, because in a way, the deepness and length of time we grieve is a way of honoring what that person or animal friend truly meant to us.

But grief is also something you develop a relationship with.  You don’t have to fight it, or get rid of it, or get over it.  I personally welcome grief, especially in the beginning, because I know it’s helping me to get out all the feelings that demand witness.  Grief helps with that.

I also know my sneaky little brain can get into habits of thinking about the same things every day, or at certain times of the year, and I have learned that it can be a positive thing to engage these thoughts and negotiate with them, or re-purpose them, so they’re not something that’s simply happening to you, making you helpless and miserable, but instead something you can interact with, and actively engage, even incorporate into your life.

My mother died in April 2015, and today she would have been 67.  This morning, that thought made me sad.  Relatively speaking, she died young, certainly before anyone expected her to pass.  Of course, her birthday made me a bit sad this morning; that’s okay.  But do you think my mother, laughing and travelling in spirit, would want me to feel sad *all day* on her *birthday!?*  Every year???  OF COURSE NOT.

So for her sake, and my own, I have been incorporating these new little rituals in my life, on these significant dates, so that I can tell my body and my brain that while we can still feel sad, we can also celebrate, connect, and care for ourselves and those we have lost to spirit.

(Whenever I’m talking to myself, I seem to always shift to the plural form, “we”, which usually means my spirit form, my brain consciousness, my body, my dynamic layers of life experience, and all the people I’m connected with – including you, my dear reader, because we are surely as connected to each other through this blog as two trees on opposite edges of a forest, connected through a mass of touching roots.

 

I just realized that I need a happy ritual for my mother’s birthday.  What should it be?

Today, December 12th, and although St. Nicholas Day is December 6th, I have pretty vivid memories of getting little presents in my polished dress shoes on the same day my mother received her birthday presents.  There were sometimes red and white carnations, or a poinsettia from my father, and often there would be chocolate chip bundt cake.

Maybe that’s what I’ll do.  I’ll make that bundt cake recipe.  I need to get a bundt pan.

And I should pick up some stocking stuffers for Sweetie and wrap them!

Tonight is especially lovely, because we have the “Sail Past” in Ucluelet.   It’s this charming community tradition where locals decorate their boats in Christmas lights and sail around the harbour, shooting off fireworks!  It’s quite delightful and part of the charm of living in this small little town.  We have lived here for NINE years now!

WOW!

Anyway.  I guess I’m writing this post to reach out to those of you who may be missing your loved ones in spirit, especially this time of year.  I know it’s hard.  It’s not easy for me to talk about how tough it has been at times.

I’m so grateful to my friends – so many of whom I made through this blog, who have literally shown me how to have positive, happy feelings on days when I might otherwise be inclined to be sad.

I’m so thankful, and I love you all!

Happy Birthday Mom, and Happy Holidays, my friends!

 

 

 

Revealing Cat Colours

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Remember this post, waaaaay back in 2011 about the colours of domestic cats and how it can signify the cat’s mission?

I thought I’d elaborate on what I’ve learned in the past few years.  Here’s a quick list:

– It seems that in general, only cats seem to have obvious colour-concurrences to their “mission” in life (whether it’s healing, helping with spiritual growth, grounding, being a clown, etc.)  Dogs and indeed most domestic pets come in with specific missions in relation to their human (why be a pet, otherwise?)  But with dogs it’s often breed-related, and dogs frequently seem to incarnate back into their *physical* line, meaning they seem to like to reincarnate into bodies that are decended from their previous bodies.  I’ve seen this with horses and I’ve absolutely heard this from wild birds, who reincarnate into their descendants.

But only cats seem to use fur colours to signal what exactly it is that they’re up to.

Here’s a list of the most common groupings, as observed by Penelope Smith and by me.  Now, keep in mind that not EVERY orange cat is a member of the “Orange Cat Contingent”, but all members of the Orange Cat Contingent make sure they have orange coats.

Orange tabby

Big change.  Cheerful, jollying you along, leaders, encourage leadership in their families, encourage self-confidence, bold, brash, encourage global change (they’re major environmentalists).  Sometimes they minor in energy healing (as many cats do!)  They hold the “vibration” of sunlight, energy, optimism, catalysts.  Orange cats may present themselves as signs to encourage you in a new beginning, to encourage you on your way.

Brown Tabby

Grounding.  Keeping you down to earth with love, snuggles, companionship, humour.  Big snugglers, big lovers.  They are awesome at helping you to love yourself, to become independent from the opinions of others, to remind you to connect with nature and connect with your true self / heart center / what you really want in life.  They’re great at calming you down and helping you through hard times.

Black & White (Tuxedo)

Sacred clowns!  Tuxies are born to raise the vibration of the people around them, constantly, through clowning!  My friend’s tuxie invented the most ridiculous way to eat his food: he backs his butt up the wall behind the food dish and eats his food while doing a handstand.  He does this “because it’s funny”.  Check out all the toilet-trained cats on you-tube – so many of them are tuxies!  They do it “because it’s funny”.  They also like to invent games, get into mischief (are known to flush their toys down the toilet once they’ve learned how to operate it!)  They’re all about living in the moment, making this moment brighter, happier.

Black

Physical healing.  Traditional herbalists often had black cats, which is how they became associated with “witches” and “bad luck” in some countries.  In other countries, black cats are actually considered to be sacred and good luck!  Black cats are often medical intuitive and are excellent at scanning the bodies of humans and recommending particular plants with certain energy signatures.  I think black cats and herbalists have been working together for thousands of years, and that herbalists developed a close, animal communication relationship with their little helpers!  Today, the black cats throw suggestions into the brains of their loved ones to encourage good health.  Drink that tea.  You want to eat spinach.  You want to come to bed early tonight.

Black cats also seem to have a proud history of being muses to writers and artists, helping to hold a supportive, creative space.

White

I’ve noticed that many other psychic and animal communicators seem to find themselves in the company of white cats.  White cats seem to have this spiritual connection, this ability to help and support their humans in raising their own resonance so they can tap into and connect with the “divine”, be it nature, spirits, other animals or their own healing gifts.  White cats are often born deaf (as with many white dogs, it’s a genetic trait associated with the white gene).  Deafness in animals often ramps up their dependence of their telepathic abilities, (as does blindness) and consequently, white cats often choose deafness to amplify their ability to communicate telepathically with their humans, to facilitate their teachings.  That’s one hell of a devotion!

Siamese / Point colouring

Siamese are a breed more than a colouring, but they’ve been cross-bred so much that point colouring appears in many different types of housecats, and in “new” breeds.  In general, point-coloured cats take great pride in their ancestry and their spiritual responsibilities.  They’re extraordinarily devoted, and demanding of respect.  A Siamese-heritage cat has a way of asking “do you know who I am?”  And so asks you, “Do you know who YOU are?”  They model pride, spirituality, history and wealth.  They remind you to take pride in your own heritage, your own history and to demand respect.

I’ve noticed that some of the newer pointed cross-breeds like the Birmen and the Ragdolls seem to be more “black and white” clowny temperaments even thought they appear more Siamese.  I haven’t really figured out whether the newer breeds are coming in as contingents / missions or if they just want to be love bugs and have a good time.

Tortishell & Calico

These are the cats of artists.  They’re introspective, they’re beautiful, often shy and introverted, they seem to dress up every room they enter.  They’re excellent muses.  Often they give the human permission to be a loner, to be introspective, to be different, unusual, to contrast with their own environment.  They understand this life experience, and commiserate.

Grey / Silver

Childhood.  Many people who have owned grey cats knew them when they were children.  Grey cats often come in for the kids.  One thing I’ve noticed in readings is that Grey, Black and White cats often have past lives as cats among these three colours, but not in any other.  This seems a bit too much “on the nose” to be real to me, but there must be something energetically related about these colours and the beings who are attracted to these contingents.  Grey cats pop up in fluffy, long-haired, flat-faced bodies, and when they do they’re often speaking to the *inner* child of the adults in the house, helping the human to reconcile past experiences in this life and in their past lives.  Sleek, short-haired grey cats are much more active, and seem to do the best job at snapping the humans out of their “head” and into the moment, connecting them to their irrational inner wants and needs, which are really our spiritual wants and needs.

When it’s not possible for the humans to meet or act upon their spiritual wants and needs (because sometimes, life sucks) the greys are amazing at holding that space of hope, supporting the humans through their limbo, until the “sun can shine” in their life again.  Grey cats really help us to clear the clouds from our lives.

That’s what I’ve learned so far from hundreds of pet readings and through Penelope Smith’s teachings.

What do you guys think about this?  Did you / do you have a cat in any of these contingents?

*remember I love to see your pet photos!*